Infertility sufferer? Chronic dieter?
Self-sabotager? Anxious mother?
People pleaser? Professional overachiever?
We might just have a few things in common.
After struggling with infertility for years, I promoted myself to stressed out, full time professional and full time mom, jumping through hoops to exceed expectations at work and then running ragged driving my kids all over town. Then, there was the guilt because I wasn’t “making time for myself.”
I was a walking and talking version of my “should do” list.
In striving to please everyone else, my kids, my students, my colleagues, I was losing myself. I knew something wasn’t right, but this was the life most of the other moms I knew were living, so why was I feeling so upside down? I was so frustrated with myself for not being able to deal, for not finding time to get everything done, for never making time for fun, for gaining weight from stress eating, for believing that other people would fix it for me, for being chronically downhearted.
Can you relate?
- I realized that we moms need help. We need support. But it can’t be overly complex, because we are so damn busy.
- So I armed myself with the skills to figure this out. For all of us. I studied brain science, nutrition, and family dynamics. I trained as an NLP Practitioner and Hypnotherapist.
- I created my own signature programs based on research, science and what got the best results for my clients and for me.
- We have to go inward to discover the who’s, the what’s, the why’s. Only then can we peel away the layers and live authentically. Only then can we be truly wise.
“Lisa is an intuitive and nonjudgmental listener, who quickly and easily establishes rapport and sees the big picture. She is responsive and collaborative in her problem solving. I have experienced improvements in my ability to deal with stress, in my sleep and in making healthful choices in my life. I love listening to the recordings that support me in between sessions.”
It is true that I’ve helped a lot of women like you reach their goals and find balance. But I could never do this work if I did not understand where they are coming from. I get it. I’ve been there. I’m still there! I continue to do the work everyday to dig in and dig out.
And I do mess up. Daily. But I forgive myself (not easy), reassess (a little easier) and move on (freeing). It’s a cycle.
What I have discovered is that only when we get out of our own way, can we show up as authentic and wise mothers.
Once you learn how to hack your mindset, to take on your triggers and kick ‘em to the curb, you can change your mind to align with your true self.
You’re set free, Mama bird.
But, I’m not gonna lie, there will still be the laundry…
Curious for More?
I’ve got credentials.
I graduated from the S.I. Newhouse School of Public Communications at Syracuse University with a B.S. in Advertising and a minor in Psychology. I worked at some big and small advertising agencies in NYC before attending graduate school at Teachers College, Columbia University for a M.A. in Education. I taught middle school Language Arts, Social Studies and Science in NYC, then in the Chicago suburbs and finished my teaching career in Denver Public Schools where I received the Distinguished Teacher rating every year. Currently, I have a private practice supporting current and future mothers. I am also an Adjunct Instructor at the University of Denver’s Morgridge School of Education.
I struggled with infertility for years.
It was one of the darkest and loneliest periods of my life. I had a miscarriage at 15 weeks, and went through countless rounds of IUI’s and IVF’s. I know now that my mindset totally undermined my fertility, so I am extremely passionate about helping future moms shift their mindsets and optimize their fertility. You can read the full version of this story here.
I love to learn.
This is a double-edged sword. I’m a voracious reader, researcher and am fascinated by people and science. I love being creative and brainstorming ideas, taking classes and learning new techniques. Sometimes though, I use this as an excuse to distract myself from getting the big things done. I’m always working on how to hack my brain to be more focused and productive. I’ve also learned that tidying up or doing the laundry is not a legitimate way to distract from an important, but challenging task.
I’m good at seeing the big picture in people and situations.
I love this quality about myself, and it makes me a trusting, supportive professional and a good problem-solver. However, I’ve learned over the years that when someone discovers the critical insight for themselves, it is waaaaay more powerful. I’ve embraced the wait time, because that fabulous A-HA moment is yours, not mine.
I believe that “just wanting our kids to be happy” sets them up for failure.
If I had a dollar for every time I heard a parent say this at a parent/teacher conference, I’d be a millionaire. We simply can’t be happy all the time. It’s an impossible goal, and it doesn’t help our kids develop grit and resilience. I think it’s so important to help our kids name their emotions, not as good or bad, but as comfortable and uncomfortable, and to know how to find their way back to balance. Helping clients with this topic is a huge passion of mine.
I am a perfectionist.
When I discovered that I had this perfectionist tendency, I actually thought it was a good thing. Ha! Now I know the dirty underbelly of shiny and glossy perfection: fear of failure. I can see clearly now how often I gave up on myself and my goals because I couldn’t achieve them with perfection. I still work on taming this tricky beast every single day.
I’ve had bouts of emotional eating.
I have spent many years using food to distract me from feeling the yucky stuff. I still remember feeling shitty one day in the high school cafeteria. The Twinkies, washed down with a sugary lemonade, were making it all better until a popular boy chided me about how fat I was getting. Ouch! Still hurts. I have seriously paid thousands of dollars on diet regimens, books and programs. I’ve tried them all. I finally listened to my body and trusted myself enough to discover what works best for me. I love helping women find what works for them.
I have a hard time saying no to people.
This has gotten me into some uncomfortable predicaments. It meant staying in unhealthy relationships for too long, overextending myself by working late or volunteering for too many things, saying yes to my kids even though it was not the best parenting call, spending money I didn’t have in order to “pay it forward” or “help someone less fortunate” or some other story I concocted to justify my behavior. P.S. I am still working on this everyday.